10 Game-Changing Lessons from Raj Shamani on Growth,
Focus, and Winning in Life
Raj Shamani is one of India’s most popular entrepreneurs and
content creators, known for his sharp business mind, honest storytelling, and
powerful personal brand. From building a successful business at a young age to
becoming a voice for the new generation of creators and entrepreneurs, Raj’s
journey is full of valuable lessons.
In this article, we break down the rules that have helped
him grow and win—both in business and in life. These aren't just fancy ideas;
they are real, practical habits and mindsets that anyone can start using today.
Whether you're a budding entrepreneur, a content creator, or someone who wants
to level up in life, Raj’s rules offer clarity and inspiration.
Let’s dive into his success formula—one rule at a time.
1. The Infinite Game – Keep Moving Forward, Always
Raj Shamani believes that life is not a race with a finish
line. It’s not about winning or losing—it’s about staying in the game. He calls
this the “infinite game” mindset. Instead of chasing quick wins or comparing
yourself to others, focus on growing a little every day.
This rule is a reminder that success doesn’t happen
overnight. There will be ups and downs, but what matters most is that you keep
moving, learning, and evolving. Whether it’s business, content creation, or
personal growth—think long-term. Play the game to stay in it, not just to
finish it.
He said start doing today what you always wanted to do once
you have enough money, enough time, enough freedom because if you do not it you
will feel empty and you will lose in your life it could be anything leaning
music, playing guitar, learning more, upgrading your skills, learning about
building a business or anything that you the love the most and loving that fully
think it never ending.
2. Don’t Get Hurt – Build a Thick Skin and Keep Growing
One of the biggest lessons Raj Shamani shares is to not let
negativity or criticism to replace you. Whether you're starting something new
or growing in your journey, people will always have opinions. Some will support
you, others might doubt you—but you can't let it hurt you.
Raj Shamani explains that when you let yourself get hurt too
easily—by people’s words, criticism, or small situations—it slowly makes you
weak from the inside. You start hiding your true feelings. You stop sharing
your ideas. You stop showing up as your full self. And when that happens, you
become just another replaceable person in the room.
He says the key is to find that one thing that usually
hurts you the most. It could be someone not valuing your opinion, being
ignored at work, or not feeling appreciated in a relationship. Whatever it is,
make a promise to yourself: “This year, I won’t let this one thing hurt
me—no matter where I am: at home, at work, or in my personal life.”
3. Live as if Your Parents Were Dead – Choose Your Own
Path
This rule might sound intense at first, but Raj Shamani uses
it to make a powerful point about freedom—not from love, but from pressure.
He suggests doing a simple but eye-opening exercise:
Take a notebook and write down the top three expectations your parents
have from you.
Maybe they want you to earn a certain amount of money, marry someone they
choose, or avoid business because it feels risky.
Next, write down the top three criticisms they keep
repeating, knowingly or unknowingly—
“You’re not serious
enough.”
“You can’t make money doing this.”
“Why can’t you be more like them?”
Then, pause and ask yourself:
If nobody was judging you… if you had no fear, no limits—what is that one
thing you would do, what is that one thing that you have not done yet and
you would do
Raj’s message isn’t about disrespecting your parents. It’s
about letting go of the fear that holds you back. It’s about living life on
your own terms, with confidence and clarity.
So instead of carrying the weight of judgment, carry the
courage to take that one step forward—for you.
4. Identify and
Push Your Slight Edge – Use What Makes You Different
Raj Shamani says everyone has a slight edge—something
that makes them unique, valuable, and powerful. It could be your skill in
writing, editing, marketing, sales, or any field you're in. The problem is,
most people either don’t know what their edge is, or they fake it to impress
others.
Raj says: be honest with yourself. Ask:
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Are you really using your full potential?
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Are you earning like the top 1% in your field?
Then, take a step back and write down the three things
that are stopping you from reaching that next level. It could be fear,
laziness, lack of consistency, or even comparing yourself to others.
Knowing your edge isn’t about being perfect—it’s about being
real. When you’re aware of your limits and your strengths, you’re
already ahead. Because the person who understands their own capacity also knows
exactly how to break through it.
5. . Build Blinders Around Your Goals – Focus Like a
Horse
Raj Shamani says if you really want to win in life, you need
to have blinders on—just like racehorses that wear blinders so they
don’t get distracted and only focus on the track ahead. He asks a simple but
powerful question:
👉 From morning to
night, what do you actually do that brings you closer to your dream life?
Are you waking up early, reading books, working on your
body, mind, or skills?
If someone asked you:
“What are 5 things you do daily to reach your goals?”
Or even just:
“What are 3 things you do regularly to build your dream life?”
And your answer is nothing consistent—then you're not focused. You don’t
have your blinders on.
Raj says the people who win are the ones who are laser-focused.
They don’t waste time on things that don’t help them grow. Instead, they build
their world around things like:
- Books
that expand their mindset
- Podcasts
that inspire or teach
- Skills
that move them forward
- People
who challenge and uplift them
Most people just go to work, come home, repeat—and wonder
why nothing changes. But if you want to be better than 99% of people, you have
to start doing one thing today that gets you closer to your goals.
Because once you build your blinders, you become so focused,
so sharp, and so driven… that you become truly irreplaceable.
6. Stop Pleasing People – You Don’t Need Everyone’s
Approval
Raj Shamani says one of the biggest things that holds people
back is the habit of always trying to please others—especially when making
decisions.
Every time you depend on someone else to decide what’s right
for you, you become a little weaker. Why? Because you’re telling yourself, “I
can’t handle tough choices.” But the truth is, even if you make a wrong
decision, you’ll learn from it. That lesson will make you stronger and
smarter for next time.
Now think about it—if you don’t believe in your own
decisions, why should anyone else believe in you?
And here’s the hard truth Raj shares: in any job,
relationship, or role… there’s always someone out there who believes in
themselves more than you do. And that person? They’ll look more confident, more
powerful—and they might just replace you.
So stop living to please others. Start trusting your own
voice. Make mistakes, learn from them, grow stronger—and take full control of
your journey.
Because your life moves forward the moment you start
making the calls.
7. Purpose Before Relationships – Don’t Lose Yourself in
Others
Raj Shamani shares a powerful reminder: don’t put your
dreams on hold for the sake of your relationships.
Let’s say you’re working on something big—a business idea, a
side project, or anything that matters deeply to you. At the same time, your
friends ask you to hang out, or your partner wants to spend time. So you go…
but while you’re with them, your mind is somewhere else. You’re thinking about
the project, the deadline, the idea.
In that moment, you’re not fully present with your friends or
with your purpose. You’re stuck in between.
And later, when things don’t move forward, you tell yourself, “I couldn’t build
that dream because of my friends… or my relationship… or my family.”
Raj says: don’t do that to yourself.
Instead, remind yourself that the work you’re doing—the purpose you’re
chasing—will eventually make life better for everyone around you. It’ll
make you more emotionally strong, financially stable, and deeply fulfilled.
So set clear boundaries. Respect your time. And don’t feel
guilty for choosing your purpose first.
Because when you grow, everything around you grows too.
8. Befriend Your
Critics – Growth Comes from Honest Feedback
Raj Shamani says if you want to grow, you need at least one
person in your life who tells you the truth—even when it’s
uncomfortable.
He suggests something simple but powerful:
Find someone you trust. Sit with them once a week. Even if it’s just for a 10
min or 20 min.
Tell them honestly:
👉
“Here’s what I wanted to do this week… and here’s why I didn’t do it.”
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“What do you think is really holding me back?”
Now, when they give you feedback—especially the tough kind—don’t
get hurt. Don’t take it personally. Instead, enjoy that moment. Why?
Because they’re helping you break out of mediocrity. They’re helping you see
what you couldn’t see on your own.
Most people avoid criticism. But those who grow? They
welcome it. They listen, reflect, and level up.
So stop running from the truth—and start running with
someone who pushes you toward your potential.
9. Work Harder on Yourself Than Your Job – You Are Your
Best Investment
Raj Shamani shares a life-changing idea inspired by Jim
Rohn:
“If you work harder on your job than you do on yourself, you’ll never go
far.”
It’s easy to wake up every day, go through the motions, and
complete your tasks one by one—without really working on yourself. But
that’s where most people go wrong.
Raj says you have to look at where you're falling behind. Is
it your communication skills? Writing better emails? Building confidence?
Getting fitter and healthier?
Whatever it is—if you don’t improve it now, it’ll slow you down later.
Yes, you can get another job. Yes, you can earn more money
later.
But the one thing you’ll never get back… is your time.
So do this today:
Write down one thing you know will improve your life.
And do it—no matter how small. Because when you start investing in
yourself, everything else around you starts to grow too.
10. The All-In Behaviour – Give It Everything You’ve Got
Raj Shamani is a big believer in going all-in. If you
really want something—whether it's building a business, creating content, or
chasing a big dream—you can’t do it halfway. Playing it safe might keep you
comfortable, but it won’t lead to extraordinary results.
Going all-in means fully committing to your goals, even when
it’s risky or uncertain. It means believing in yourself so much that you're
willing to put in the time, effort, and sacrifices needed to make it happen.
According to Raj, when you go all-in, the world starts taking you seriously—and
that’s when real success begins.
Final Thoughts
Raj Shamani’s journey teaches us that success isn’t about
luck or shortcuts—it’s about clarity, consistency, and character. These rules
aren’t just ideas to read once and forget—they're principles to live by.
Whether you're just starting out or already on your path, adopting even a few
of these can make a big difference in how you think, act, and grow.
At the end of the day, success is personal. Take what speaks
to you, leave what doesn’t, and keep figuring it out—one step at a time.
Credits
The insights and rules shared in this article are inspired
by the thoughts and experiences of Raj Shamani—entrepreneur, content
creator, and host of the popular podcast Figuring Out with Raj Shamani.
You can follow more of his work and content on Instagram,
YouTube,
or listen to his podcast on your favorite platform.
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